A world-renowned relationship expert shares his research about love and what it takes to develop a trustful, intimate, and emotionally fulfilling bond.
In this wise, accessible, and practical book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor Dr. John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love: Where does it come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade?
Famous for his “Love Lab” at the University of Washington and for being profiled in Malcolm Gladwell’s mega-bestseller Blink, Dr. Gottman has spent thirty-five years deciphering the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. Now, he applies his surprising findings to one crucial component: trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple’s loyalty level. The results determine a relationship’s likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. Filled with diagnostic tests, prescriptive advice, and simple exercises, this book shows you how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate betrayal—both sexual and non-sexual—and provides the tools for engaging in constructive conflict and building trust.
With a gift for translating complex scientific ideas into insightful advice, Dr. Gottman has written an essential book that guides couples through an empirically tested, confidence-boosting program. What Makes Love Last? will help you reach new levels of trust to build a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship.
“In an easy-to-understand format full of anecdotes, imaginary dialogues, and analogies to game theory, Gottman explains lack of trust in a relationship … The practical tools to evaluate current relationships and step-by-step methods for avoiding betrayal, repairing relationships heading toward crisis, or healing a relationship after a crisis will be useful to couples who want to look honestly at healing chronic hurts and improving the state of their relationship, and are ready for a system to help them.”—Publishers Weekly